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The word ‘Marriage’ by whose definition?

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Sacred Marriage?

The word ‘Marriage’ is a cause reason, why many say ‘No’ to ‘Same-Sex Marriage’.

Of course, there are other reasons, why they say ‘No’. Torah, Bible and Qur’an references opposes same-sex activity, backed by violent punishment instructions.

Other non-religious people will say ‘No’ because they reject ‘Anal Sex’. But the disgusting activity of anal sex, is not just a ‘Gay Thing’. Heterosexuals, men and women, are also having anal sex, which is an unnatural abuse of the body.

Cosmic Law states… “Thou shalt not practice anal sex.”

The only way people will understand ‘Cosmic Law’ is to read all ‘Blue Light Defiance’ series books. One thing, I advise is that when we disobey ‘Cosmic Law’, we are not punished by Man’s Laws, or by an imaginary ‘God Creator’. We are seriously hurt by a higher ‘Cosmic Law’, an ‘Immutable Law’ an ‘Eternal Law’, a ‘Natural Law’; the existence of which many have identified, for thousands of years, including 20th Century Albert Einstein. For example, ‘Cosmic Law’ teaches us from a young age not to touch hot plates etc. There is a natural consequence. Karma delivers a message, even when it is painful. No one punished us, we punished ourselves by ignoring ‘Cosmic Law’.

The history of heterosexual behaviour, does not support the belief that the word Marriage is Sacred, as many have claimed. The best lifelong eternal Marriages are more than just sex partner lovers. They are first and very important, very close friends and very loyal to each other. A friendship that grows stronger every year of their marriage. They are soulmates in the sense of natural deep affinity for each other, a lifelong bond, a feeling chemistry in physical and spiritual sensitivity, which evolves over the years into a mind meld understanding. They don’t have to be compatible in interests and every idea. They simply believe in each other, trust each other, including in finance, and care of children, and support each other in every hardship and crisis. They are in older years, in retirement, comfortable with each other’s company, enjoying being together and respecting each other’s need for some space to also enjoy their special interests. In short: They are good friends, because they are united looking in the same direction together. They respect and love each other’s differences, and don’t look for accountability to each other, they just simply flow with each other through life, like a gentle stream flowing through beautiful country into the expanding river of life that knows no end and is eternal in spirit.

Good Marriages are not sacred, they are eternally very special privileges, shared by those couples that truly care and love each other over a lifetime. In youth, most people with exceptions, dream of enjoying a good lifetime marriage. But fewer enjoy it for life. The roadblock between couples succeeding is founded upon their belief system or lack thereof. Theism and Atheism and New Age and Psychology and Socialism and Communism and Capitalism, have all failed to ensure the path of love is happy. Such ideas in these doctrines wander all over the place in people’s minds, and too often lack the existence of ‘Emotional Intelligence’ in the relationship and lack the calm character strength of ‘Philosophical Intelligence’. Without E.I. and P.I. the relationship is rocky. Like a stream getting caught in rapids, tumbling, rising and falling, the marriage may survive, but inner peace does not always exist. The couple must share inner peace, before the marriage can enjoy true sensual friendship in open mind.

I remember feeling shocked in my adult youth, back in early 1977 in Sydney, as a Purchasing Officer executive, when I heard an early sixty-years of age wife of my boss, a Director of a Pharmaceutical Company, say to me, “I don’t know what I am going to do when he (name withheld) retires. It is going to be hard to live with him.” And that was said in the days when Christianity, was the dominate ruling belief system in Australia.

Sacred Marriage? “No”. Special Privilege? “Yes”, “when a couple grow gracefully old together, enjoying each other’s company and friendship until death do us part.”

Previously: Recap:

“When we look at it… ‘Marriage’ is just a word invented by man. The definition of the word, is also invented by man, to help communicate ideas. The word ‘Union’ seems to be more acceptable, now even by religions, for or against union, between same-sex relationships. Are we humans overreacting to the word ‘Marriage’ when we accept de facto unions, for same-sex and opposite-sex, which exists for life without legalised marriage? A lot of couples now live together for life and don’t want marriage.”

The two below comments forwarded to me by Aussies, together with my reading of several Christian papers, challenged the definition of Marriage that has now been altered by many, accepting ‘Same-Sex Marriage’ around the Western World. Many Christians are not happy, about the new evolving definition. Some Christian leaders overseas are comfortable with the acceptance of ‘Same-Sex Marriage’, but others are against this acceptance and are opposing the idea. And Muslims are even tougher than Christians on this subject, they reject the same-sex world period, by enforcement of punishment. And of course, many ‘Baby Boomers’ that are not religious, are automatically against ‘Same-Sex Marriage’, because they were raised during their young years, believing as I did, that same-sex relationships are wrong, taboo. Thus, this paper evolved from the ‘Yes’ and ‘No’ challenge, ‘For’ and ‘Against’ same-sex relationships.

I changed, not because I am comfortable with the same-sex world minority lifestyle, but because I believe that to truly solve problems, including the conflict between good and bad ideas, we must live in a world of 100% ‘Freedom and Equality’.

Until we eliminate every form of ‘Totalitarianism’ we will never escape the threat of violence against us. And don’t be naïve and think LGBTI Lesbians and Gays etc. are not capable of using ‘Totalitarianism’, many will, just like many heterosexuals do. The real fight is to smash every form of legalised dictatorship that persecutes people.

Even those anti-freedom of speech groups who claim to be against ‘Hate Speech’, are hypocritically, using ‘Hate Speech’ to bully others into submission. That bully tactic is ‘Totalitarianism’.

Recap: In response to my e-mail about “Countries that have Legalised Same-Sex Marriage” … an Aussie wrote to me… (Names are withheld)

‘L’ said… “That’s a very good log or precis of the prevailing world view on homosexual unions (can you really call it ‘marriage’? I thought that was a union between a man and a woman?).”

In response to another e-mail about ‘The Gay Marriage Thing’… an Aussie wrote to me…

‘R’ said… “In the eyes of STRAIGHT marriages, queer marriages will never be recognised as a marriage. Call it something else, as it is WRONG to be called that sacred term Marriage.”

A.I. comments… Term Marriage… Sacred? By whose definition? Every culture over the last fifty thousand years has different ideas about that, and they don’t all agree with each other. Heterosexual couples often reject marriage, preferring ‘De Facto’ relationships. In the late 1970’s, Television constantly explored that question about ‘Marriage’. ‘The Love Boat’, 1977-1987 television series of romantic comic stories, aboard the cruise ship ‘Pacific Princess’ revealed acceptance of… divorce, marriage several times, de facto relationships, sex before marriage. Freedom of Sexually was out in the open in the late 1970’s. True it was only about Heterosexuality, as homosexuality was still a taboo subject. So how can we call the word ‘Marriage’ sacred when a large percentage of heterosexuals don’t believe it is sacred? The idea that a woman had to be a virgin until she was married, died in the late 1960’s. Virginity before marriage was once believed to be sacred. But not anymore. The word ‘Marriage’ ceased to be ‘Sacred’, when people chose ‘Civil Marriages’ instead of ‘Religious Marriages’. And the idea of Marriage as being sacred ended, when people gave up their virginity before marriage. And the idea of marriage being sacred vanished when heterosexuals chose de facto living together relationships, rejecting the need to be married.

This all happened before the question of ‘Same-Sex Marriage’ hit the western global table in the late 1990’s.

It wasn’t until the mid-eighties that the question of same-sex relationships openly started being raised in society. Up until the 1970’s same-sex relationship discussions were suppressed by religious society and even by Gay/Lesbians. Same-sex relationships kept it a secret, lest they be persecuted by heterosexual society. At first quietly and then by 2,000 C.E. openly in societal discussion and debate, the questions of same-sex relationships hit the western controversial table. Even strict religious Catholic ‘Mel Gibson’ did a send up of being Gay in the adventure action 1990 film ‘Bird on a Wire’, (by Director/Producer John Badham), with the great romance comedian Goldie Hawn and the good 1972-1975 ‘Kung Fu’ actor David Carradine (1936-2009) who played the criminal villain.

The Masters and Johnson Institute founded in 1964, by Sexologists William Masters and Virginia Johnson, was briefly mentioned by duo name only in a ‘Love Boat’ early third season episode. Located in Saint Louis Missouri, they began clinical research on human sexual responses, with emphasis on anatomy and physiology, which also included study of sexual dysfunctions.

Psychology joined the bandwagon, writing books about sex, including tasteful nude pictures of men and women, and sexual organs and illustrations. Sex education was now on the table from the late 1970’s rolling forward. By the 1990’s children and teenagers were sex educated in knowledge, and sadly too often in sexual experimentation, before their eighteenth year.

Marriage as a sacred word hanging on the preservation of ‘Virginity’ vanished, when Masters and Johnson and Psychology joined the promotion of the ‘Sexual Revolution’.

 And throughout all of this ‘Sexual Revolution’, Roman Christianity did not publicly say much, until after 2,000 C.E. time region, when the battle for the human right to equality was tabled in public demand for the right of ‘Same-Sex Marriage’. The ideality of ‘Sacred Marriage’ was already dead, eliminated by ‘Heterosexuality’ two decades earlier.

Meaning of word ‘Marriage’…

Wikipedia defines… “Marriage, also called matrimony or wedlock, is a socially or ritually recognized union or legal contract between spouses that establishes rights and obligations between them, between them and their children, and between them and their in-laws.”

A.I. comments… The Wikipedia as at 7th October 2017, did not infer or mention a sexual gender identification, in the marriage meaning statement. In other words, opposite-sex marriage and same-sex marriage all fit within the range of the Wikipedia definition of marriage.

The Merriam-Webster definition says…1 a. The state of being united as spouses in a consensual and contractual relationship recognised by law. b. The mutual relation of married persons: WEDLOCK. c. The institution whereby individuals are joined in marriage. 2 An act of marrying or the rite by which the married status is effected’; especially: the wedding ceremony and attendant festivities or formalities. 3 An intimate or close union.”

A.I. comments… The Webster as at 7th October 2017 does not mention sex gender identification and leaves it open. It also 2 & 3 leaves the type of ceremony open to cultural choice of celebration and rites performed and to the choice of words used be it called ‘Marriage’ or ‘Union’.

The Bing Search definition of ‘Marriage’, simply says… “The legally or formally recognised union of a man and woman, or in some jurisdictions, two people of the same sex as partners in a relationship.”

A.I. comments… Finally, a truthful definition that includes recognition of both opposite-sex and same-sex marriage/union.

But being truthful… take a step back to the Collins English Dictionary Definition dated 1979, 1986 & 1990, which says…

Marriage: 1. The state or relationship of being husband and wife. 2. The legal union or contract made by a man and woman to live as husband and wife. 3. The religious or legal ceremony formalizing this union; wedding.

A.I. comments… This definition by the Collins English Dictionary correctly defines the belief system culture which existed in the 1970’s and 1980’ into early 1990’s. Therefore, it is understandable why ‘Baby Boomer’ generation and many of their children that is, religious children, are rejecting the use of the word Marriage’ for same-sex unions. Now traditional definition is changing, evolving to include same-sex and opposite-sex relationship unions defined as ‘Marriage’, when it is a legalised union by ‘Civil Marriage’ or Marriage in some Christian Churches that are comfortable with same-sex marriage. And that acceptance of same-sex marriages in several Church’s overseas is happening, approved by many Christian Church Leaders.

Old Dictionaries define marriage as being between ‘Man and Woman’. They don’t define Marriage as being sacred. They just define it as being a legalised union by law, and before God by those that believe in God.

It makes sense, because as I have written previously same-sex relationships were once illegal and suppressed underground for fear of being persecuted by heterosexuals, whether they were religious or not. All this began to change in Australia when the 1975 Family Law Act was passed recognising the equality freedom rights of De Facto Relationships for both ‘Same-Sex’ and ‘Opposite-Sex’ couples. The turning point, heading towards the 2017 final push to legalise ‘Same-Sex Marriage’ was started by the 1975 Family Law Act. Christianity lost its grip, before anti-freedom pro-Sharia Law Islam started head-on invading Sydney by migration, building their first Big Mosque at Lakemba, Sydney NSW in 1977, thus opening the gate, inviting more Muslims to migrate to Australia.

In 2009 the Kevin Rudd Labor Government introduced reforms to equalize treatment for same-sex couples and same-sex families. The reforms were focused on eliminating discrimination against same-sex couples and same-sex families. Notice it was the Labor Party lead by Prime Minister Gough Whitlam before his dismissal from office on 11th November 1975, at the time, when I was in hospital with two broken legs, that started the recognition of same-sex couples in 1975. And even at this moment, as I am recording these historical notes on the 8th October 2017, Bill Shorten leader of the opposition Labor Party, openly states that the ‘Labor Party’ supports the legalization of ‘Same-Sex Marriage’. [See image below]. Like I keep saying Christianity is losing its grip of control, not only in Australia, but around the Western World and is losing ground even in 80% Catholic stronghold Mexico.

Totalitarianism in all its Christian religious doctrine is being challenged. Problem is that ‘Islamic Totalitarianism’ is not being challenged by many Christian leaders and anti-freedom of speech Socialism doctrine is not being challenged by Christians, or the irreligious.

A new form of ‘Totalitarianism’ is taking over, including some ‘Corporation Totalitarianism’ and most people are still not recognising the dangers. When ‘Same-Sex Marriage’ is legalised there will arise new totalitarian stunts spring-boarding off the approval of ‘Same-Sex Marriage’. It is these new forthcoming totalitarian stunts we must deal with down-the-track.

Definition of Marriage by Sheri Stritof dated 15th August 2017…

Marriage is defined differently, and by different entities, based on cultural, religious and personal factors.

Our definition of marriage: A formal union, marriage is a social, and legal contract between two individuals that unites their lives legally, economically, and emotionally. The contractual marriage agreement usually implies that the couple has legal obligations to each other throughout their lives or until they decide to divorce.

Being married also gives legitimacy to sexual relations within the marriage. Traditionally, marriage is often viewed as having a key role to the preservation of morals and civilization.

A.I. comments… Sheri Stritof tabled a good truthful definition of marriage, which fits the needs of understanding todays’ early 21st Century society, that has become more socially complex in alternative ideas and beliefs. The simplistic fixed dogma of religious doctrine is no longer recognised by many irreligious people and other political and philosophical belief systems.

As for the past age fantasy idea, inspired by religion that marriage plays a key role to the preservation of morals and civilization, it has never truly succeeded. A large percentage of marriages throughout the centuries in all cultures, have failed to protect and preserve such dreamtime ideals. Many marriages lasted for life, unhappy inside, there was not real morality inside those union walls. Many relationships survived in conflict until death. Religious beliefs did not make the marriage happier. The united loving conviction faded. Fortunately for others, marriage happily lasted unto death. Those marriages were successful in upholding moral values, even when a partner inside the marriage temporarily wandered off course into outside marriage promiscuity.

What is sacred about past centuries of marriage created unions by ‘Arranged Marriages’ and ‘Cousin Marriages’ and ‘Proxy Marriages’, usually approved by religious leaders, where the couple, more often the woman, had no rights to refuse to marry the person that was selected for them?

Throughout history many unhappy marriages were created by dictatorship and even in the 1956 musical the ‘King and I’ # starring Yul Brynner, Deborah Kerr, Rita Moreno (of famed 1961 great musical ‘West Side Story’), a brief spinoff story existed, where an unhappy young woman, a slave, was being forced to become one of his concubine, marry the ‘King’ to become one of his many lower level wives. She ran away with her young lover to escape the forced marriage. The girl was caught and faced punishment, she was to be whipped. What is sacred about ‘Forced Marriages’? And let’s not forget the old Western Days in early America when Christian beliefs ruled, and ‘Shotgun’ weddings were at times enforced. Sacred?

Fixed dogma, is an enemy of ‘Freedom and Equality’. It is time for emotionally calm open-mind objective ‘Think Tank’. We humans must change the way we think, by learning to think outside the square, of the square. As I have said in previous writings, there is a difference between being clever and smart. Being clever is not good enough, if we do not have ‘Emotional Intelligence’ and ‘Philosophical Intelligence’. ‘Cosmicism’ is the door to ascension way past ‘Enlightenment’. Those with courage, on their eternal quest for truth, will learn that the true meaning and purpose of existence, lives for the challenge, sharing with others what they found.

To succeed every person needs an environment of ‘Freedom’.

# Author’s Note: The ‘King and I’ musical was based upon the 1944 semi-fictional novel by Margaret Landon, titled… ‘Anna and the King of Siam’. The screenplay for the film musical was based upon the 1951 stage musical by Richard Rogers and Oscar Hammerstein II. Landon’s novel was based upon an 1870 memoir by Anna Leonowens titled ‘The English Governess at the Siamese Court’. Her memoir reveals as a British Educator she was hired in 1862 to teach the wives and children of Mongkut, King of Siam. [Siam now known as Thailand; Capital City: Bangkok] After nearly six years, Anna left the position to return to England in 1867. Two other films were also made on the memoir story, 1946 ‘Anna and the King of Siam’ starring Irene Dunne, Rex Harrison, and Linda Darnell (of the famous 1946 Western ‘My Darling Clementine’ and 1940 ‘The Mark of Zorro’) and 1999 ‘Anna and the King’ starring Jodie Foster, Yun-Fat Chow, and Bai Ling. American screenwriter Ernest Lehman adapted the Anna story for the creation of the ‘King and I’ musical.

Linda Darnell sadly died in Cook County Hospital in the afternoon on 10th April 1965, after being burnt in the early hours of the morning in a house fire, where she was staying in Glenview Illinois, a suburb of Chicago. When I heard the news as a teenager, I was stunned by the knowledge, in much the same way, when I heard John F. Kennedy had been assassinated in November 1963, 12 years before I became trapped in hospital for 3 months.

Allan Peter Ivarsson ©

Author’s Note: ‘The word ‘Marriage’ by whose definition?’ was first published on e-mail to global friends on 10th October 2017.


In the name of ‘Equality’ the Labor Party supports ‘Same-Sex Marriage’ and opposes ‘Freedom of Speech’ by enforcing anti-freedom of speech legislation 18C. More detailed information can be read in my book ‘Insanity of Hate’

The Greens and idiot activists ‘GetUp’ also have the same mentality as Labor. Where is the logic when politicians oppose freedom of speech and support freedom of equality?

‘Cosmicism’ is fighting for 100% ‘Freedom of Speech’ & 100% ‘Freedom of Choice’ & 100% ‘Freedom of Equality’. You may not like everything ‘Cosmicism’ says about different ‘Belief Systems’, but if you are smart, you will back ‘Cosmicism’ to gain the eternal human right to 100% Freedom & Equality.

‘Cosmicism’ is committed to the elimination of all anti-freedom of speech laws in every Western Nation and in every Communist Nation and in every Islamic Nation and in every Fascist Nation. That elimination process includes outlawing insidious ‘Blasphemy Law’, which is currently enforced by Christians & Muslims.



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