Disabled Victims – Men and Women
In the following article, more concerns are tabled with the title “Why gender-based violence is an issue for Disabled people” by ‘Bristol Disability Equality Forum’, dated July 7, 2016. (xvii) Now this concern is a valid important issue, which needs attention, once again the choice of subject title is wrong. It is not a “Gender-based violence” issue, it is a ‘Domestic Violence’ issue against ‘Disabled people’. And who says that all ‘Disabled People’ are not capable of being over demanding, excessively abusive and not capable of throwing things. Whilst it is true ‘Disabled People’ endure hardship and unjust experiences caused by unjust natural inflictions of life, deviations of evolution unkind process, or caused by unjust accidents due to someone else’s negligence or even caused by their own careless negligence through accident that caused their injuries, which may include partaking in dangerous risk-taking sports.
No one is accountable for my legs injury accident in October 1975. I took the risk, made an error in judgment and had to live with constant pain for the rest of my life and restrictions in what I could physically do thereafter. I am accountable, whilst it is reasonable to talk with friends and family about my physical limitations to create understanding, it is not acceptable to complain and whinge and burden everyone down with my pain and difficulty. That is reality. I had a school friend, Trevor Thomas, who became a paraplegic through a motor bike accident in late 1966. He had to live with his handicap and did so valiantly without complaint, though he clearly understandably, was not happy about his life, nevertheless he lived the challenge and did what had to be done until he tragically died in his fifties, too early, caused by an accidental bike crash, years ago, when he was only 18 years old.
Not every disabled person has calm commitment to accept life and live as best they can, some are abusive and difficult. On the other hand, some good thinking disabled people are victims of abuse, mistreated by men or women or both.
The article (xvii) on this subject is a recommended read, if it is still available on the Internet, for the purpose of this treatise to extend understanding outside the generalised global ‘Domestic Violence’ movement that ignores many other concerns, except for the unacceptable abuse of women. Whilst the focus of concern in this information leans on female disabled victims, it does correctly acknowledge that disabled men are also often mistreated victims by partners or family members.
Of course, how much support disabled men get is another question for needed exploration by society.
And I wonder, more homework is needed, how many Gays, male and female, able and disabled, are caught up in experiencing incidents of Domestic Violence’? Though not an issue in Saudi Arabia and Iran, true to Islam, they hang Gays, no risk of ‘Domestic Violence’, Islam’s solution is systematic elimination of all persons they hate. (xviii) Sometimes the gays temporarily survive in Islamic Countries, they are just brutally beaten up, usually on the streets, until Islamic Governments capture them. I would call this ‘Domestic Violence’ on the Streets within a Nation. But then why would the Movement against ‘Domestic Violence’ extend their dedication to stop all forms of violence, including against Gays? Such an activist move requires higher levels of courage and better political organisation. Too onerous at present for the ‘Zero Tolerance for Domestic Violence Movement’, oh well it will stay in the too hard basket until Political Courage rises stronger against all forms of ‘Domestic Violence’ in every Nation around the globe.
“If a man in an Islamic country is “outed” as gay, he’s not teased, or denied employment. He’s imprisoned and quite possibly, executed, both of which are scarily common practices in Iran and Saudi Arabia.” (xviii)
“…women who aren’t veiled are considered fair game for rapists, [Jihad Muslim Males], eventually Western women are forced to wear the veil, and in that way, they become hostages to sharia law.” (xviii)
April 12, 2013 (xviii)
Whilst the comments by Massoumi (xviii) are valid observations, about the dark side of Islamic Doctrine and anti-freedom ‘Sharia Law’… I, A.I., have not seen any indicator that this man’s character can be trusted as one of integrity. But truth stands alone, regardless of source and this comment by I, in no way means he cannot be trusted, for a person is innocent until proven not reliable. For all of us… “Trust is earned not given”. I tabled his accurate statement for what it is, an awareness of hard truthful reality… the danger of ‘Islamization of the West’ will destroy the sincere objectives of the ‘Zero Tolerance for Domestic Violence’ movement and failure is not acceptable, hence the expansion of anti-freedom apartheid Islam true to the Qur’an and ‘Sharia Law’ must be absolutely stopped.
Author’s Note: The link source of (xviii) C.M. comments vanished from the Internet link 3 weeks later after, I sighted the remarks. I kept them for the philosophical history books, because they are still authentic valid concerns.
The below well written document extract (xvii) should be used as a ‘Philosophical Historical’ document for reference by all ‘Domestic Violence’ movement organisations around the world, but unfortunately, too often organisations do not do global homework to explore how others handle concerns and issues. There is no place for ego/vanity the best of all knowledge, ideas and understanding need to be pulled together to create one big picture universal education awareness about reality. Read as follows… (xvii)
“Bristol Disability Equality Forum is an organisation run by and for Disabled people who live, work, study and/or use services in Bristol. As an organisation concerned with challenging inequality we seek to work with others to gain, and promote, a greater understanding of the impact of inequality and discrimination on the different groups and communities of Bristol.” (xvii)
“We welcome the opportunity to work alongside the Bristol Zero Tolerance initiative and all those supporting survivors of gender-based violence, so that together we can develop a better understanding of Disabled people’s needs and respond in way that is inclusive and accessible.” (xvii)
“We know from the experience of our members and from research, that for many Disabled people harassment and abuse are considered part of ‘everyday life’. Disabled women are twice as likely to experience domestic abuse or sexual violence as non-Disabled women.” (xvii)
“Disabled people are often described or portrayed as ‘vulnerable’, ‘a burden’, ‘heroic’ or ‘brave’ with no particular regard to the individual concerned but based on the attitudes of others. These seemingly different portrayals work together to present us as different, ‘other’ or as needing someone to control our lives. This can help foster a range of views that support abuse, either because we are viewed as incapable or because we are failing to meet the expectations of a ‘heroic’ or ‘brave’ individual.” (xvii)
“This is borne out by the prevailing political climate of austerity, where supporting Disabled people to be equal citizens is increasingly seen as a burden, or an unaffordable luxury.” (xvii)
“At the same time, recent studies point to an increase in hate crime and harassment of Disabled people, that appears to correlate with media portrayals of Disabled people as ‘scroungers’. (xvii)
“It is these persistent narratives that normalise and enable the objectification, devaluing and ultimately the abuse of Disabled people, and in particular Disabled women and children and those in residential care.” (xvii)
“People may find it difficult to accept that ‘vulnerable’ individuals are subject to abuse and violence, something identified as a ‘culture of disbelief’ in the Equality and Human Rights Commission 2011 report ‘Hidden in Plain Sight’.” (xvii)
“At the same time, Disabled people may be thought of as ‘unreliable’ and therefore not to believed. This enables the abuse to continue and may prevent Disabled people from reporting incidents or seeking help.” (xvii)
“Evidence shows this is particularly the case for women labelled with learning difficulties, or as having mental health problems. As with recent ‘grooming’ cases of children and young people, the perceived unreliability of ‘vulnerable’ women may be a deciding factor in perpetrators targeting them for violence and abuse.” (xvii)
“Another area that we would welcome the opportunity to focus on, is the relationship between coercive control and hate crime. Despite the differences in legislation, and the way these may be flagged by prosecutors, for Disabled survivors these forms of abuse, control and violence often overlap. However, for a variety of reasons, these experiences might be recognised as such, by both survivors and professionals.” (xvii)
“We recognise this abuse takes different forms and happens in a variety of situations where survivors are made to feel utterly dependent on the care and support of those perpetrating abuse. Disabled women in Bristol have reported being purposely isolated from family and friends, of having food and personal care withheld, of being financially exploited, and of being controlled by the use of threats and humiliation. Disabled survivors of abuse have been told ‘no one else would have you’, or ‘you should be grateful’.” (xvii)
“A report by researchers from the Universities of Bristol and Warwick, commissioned by Women’s Aid, found that: (xvii)
- Disabled women are twice as likely to experience domestic violence, abuse or rape as non-Disabled women.
- Disabled men and women are more likely to experience abuse from a partner or family member.
- Disabled women are likely to have to endure abuse for longer because accessible or appropriate support is not available.
- Disabled women report that being a Disabled person made the abuse worse and severely limits their capacity to escape or seek help.
- Women with learning difficulties experience the greatest levels of abuse.
- A study of women who access mental health services identified between 50% and 60% had experienced domestic violence. (xvii)
“Domestic violence, harassment, coercion and abuse must become matters of concern for all sectors of society in Bristol. To this end, we fully support Bristol Zero Tolerance, and their commitment to encouraging everyone to work towards a city free of gender-based violence.” (xvii)
“Our definition of Disabled people is informed by the Social Model of Disability; a Disabled person is someone who experiences discrimination on the grounds of a physical or sensory impairment, leaning difficulty, neuro-diversity, long term life-limiting illness, or long term emotional or mental distress.” (xvii)
End of Bristol Disability Equality Forum Organisation Statement.
Bristol city is located in South West England, for those that do not know Britain’s geography.
A.I. comments…This extract reading (xvii) is I believe a very important historical foundation document of valid concerns that every Nation and every person that cares about stopping ‘Domestic Violence’ should read. It would be a tragedy if this documented understanding vanished and was not preserved as an important insightful realisation of reality in historical philosophy books, on this subject. However, careful review of thoughts is needed.
As I stated earlier the use of the words ‘gender-based violence’ needs to be phased out. The focus is not the obvious implications of many gender attacks, the focus is the elimination objective of ‘Domestic Violence’ for all genders, all ages, including the abled and the disabled. To get our philosophical belief system values working true to ideality objectives, which honestly recognise reality concerns, we must focus on the creation of ‘Zero Tolerance for Domestic Violence’ organisations in every Nation that deals with all the concerns and not just some specialist category, which neglects the attention of other serious equally important issues.
The footnote definition of Disability needs a complete rewrite. Delete reference to discrimination in the definition and simply define what the general range of Disability realities are, and leave this definition open for upgrade, because as technology advances during centuries ahead the definition of Disability Types may change.
As for the issue of dealing with discrimination that is an obvious, which is included in the process objective of opposing ‘Domestic Violence’ in all forms.
The extracted statement… “This can help foster a range of views that support abuse, either because we are viewed as incapable or because we are failing to meet the expectations of a ‘heroic’ or ‘brave’ individual” (xvii)… needs a question mark review. True enough, prejudiced thinking can evolve from the naïve belief that disabled people are incapable, but I don’t think ‘Domestic Violence’ is caused by that foolish thinking. And the expectations that disabled people must be constantly brave is a wrong idea. True enough we all disabled or not, must learn ‘Positive Mental Attitude’ and how to calmly using ‘Emotional Intelligence’ deal with difficulties, however it is unreasonable to refuse to expect that at times people will not feel distress during their hardship struggle. At such times people, abled or disabled, need friendship support. This is more than just about caring love, it is about caring kindness, considerate sense of decent concern for all ahimsa human beings including all non-human animals as well.
Truth is that the reason behind ‘Domestic Violence’ is caused by wrong ‘Belief System’ and lack of trained ‘Emotional Intelligence’, which Either does not care about others and is only concerned with their own self-centred needs… such vanity in uncaring belief system mentality, is what we must as a society, target for eradication and that begins in education process, from the moment a child can walk, at home and at school and everywhere the child travels and visits. It is the responsibility of parents, teachers and society, to ensure right educational standards and good values exist, which reject selfish demands, bully abuse and excessive obsessions with vanity and greed.
Or the person is insecure, may even be a negative optimist that lacks courage of conviction about themselves and what they believe, and can become emotional and abusive of others. Or they are simply intellectually lazy and don’t have any good belief system of any kind, consequently when conflict and harassment come their way they foldup within self imploding in understanding or exploding in overreaction, unable to cope with the problems of adversity and hardship.
These emotional feelings are not a psychology issue they are a philosophical issue, which is why all education for children should include Philosophy as mandatory training, like essential training in Mathematics and Communication skills. Children must learn how other people and belief systems think. Such training is not about indoctrinating children in one fixed dogma belief system, rather the education focus must be about opening the human mind to learn to think outside the square, using pragmatic common sense to evaluate all ideas and how to identify anti-freedom apartheid dangerous discrimination ideas that have no place in society, which includes the expulsion of all ‘Gasoline Words’ and ‘Socialist Political Correctness’. The adage honesty is the best policy is also true about ideas. The big picture understanding is not complete in overview, until all ideas dark and light are understood. Such training needs the way of ‘Philosophical Intelligence’ which is on a continuous path of improvement that is never ending, always upgrading itself.
It should be noted that austere people (xvii) can be caring or uncaring. It is not true to suggest that all austere people consider disabled people to be a burden or an unaffordable luxury. True enough economic struggles do challenge peace of mind even for the able. But the caring live true to the great adage… “When the going gets tough, the tough get going”. And only uncaring people consider disabled people a burden, because their belief system or lack thereof is more concerned with self than with others.
The argument that “recent studies point to an increase in hate crime and harassment of Disabled people, that appears to correlate with media portrayals of Disabled people as ‘scroungers’.” (xvii) …does not gel with my understanding. I have never seen the media portray disabled as ‘scroungers’ if such a media projection exists in the world, it is a disgraceful thinking media and is the rare mentality, not the norm. As for ‘hate crime’ and harassment that bad belief system mentality has always existed, for thousands of human years, not only against disabled, but also against able people. Wrong thinking prejudice, the cause of so much abuse, violence and rape of adults and children is founded once again on bad training, brain wrecked ideas, wrong philosophical belief systems or lack thereof. And such reality will not go away until society through education learns “Philosophical Intelligence”.
The idea that “People may find it difficult to accept that ‘vulnerable’ individuals are subject to abuse and violence” (xvii) is understandable, if people have lived in good homes and amongst friends that have never experienced such abuse and have never known anyone that suffered such abuse. It is natural for these people to live naïve thinking that all people are nice and wonderful. On the other hand, people who have known nothing but abuse and have known others that also have experienced such terrible mistreatment will understandably see the world from their point of view as not being very nice and that all people cannot be trusted. Our belief system is not just what we are taught, it evolves from our experiences as well, good or bad, or both.
Those of us that had nice homes, nice friends as children and then as adults learn the dark side of life, suffered future shock, we had to adjust our understanding and awareness of reality. And when I in 1970 made a commitment on a ‘Quest for Truth’, I had no idea then, the disturbing things I would learn about reality and ideality. Fortunately, I learned ‘Positive Mental Attitude’ which kept me afloat from falling apart at the seams and helped me never to feel depressed or suicidal, no matter how tough things were at times. I learned to reject ‘Optimism’ and focus on ‘Reality’ and use ‘Ideality’ only as a star of guidance, as I lived for self-improvement and the sharing of caring about others, all life and my planet and universe. Our world is just us, and our friends and family, and when we cease to exist, our world is gone, which is why for all life, human and others, trillions of worlds always exist for all eternity. (Read my story… the Ant & the Frog.)
Sadly, people desperate to be needed, can become ‘control freaks’ wrapped up in their own ego/vanity and may be overzealous in care and control of disabled people and even able people. This excessive burdensome control obsession can cause emotional stress for the victim, even when abuse is not a physical action. For mental abuse, can come from not yelling and screaming, but can be simply caused by the deliberate suggestion that a person is not capable and must be controlled at all times. Such false knowledge belief system thinking, introduces victims of oppression and may foster a lack of self-worth, no confidence in self, unhappiness and depression.
Society through education must teach and encourage all persons able or disabled to have confidence in their own ability and thus must be taught PMA, even when their skills levels are limited in variety. We as a progressive society must work a lot harder in education process at changing the way we think. There is no place for Totalitarianism in any form, which includes no place for fixed dogma. There is no place for abuse and negativity, we must change, living true to pragmatic common sense, using PMA as taught by ‘Philosophical Intelligence’, the way of ‘Cosmicism’ the way of ‘Blue Light Cosmic Philosophy’.
Allan Peter Ivarsson © 2016
To be Continued…
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